At John M Simmons .com it’s all about home and family. Of course the foundation of ours is a successful marriage and most of that can be attributed to my wife, Amy. Parenting, in our home, involves nine children, in all, and we have just entered the mode for grandchildren with our first grandchild. After three biological sons, Amy and I turned to adoption. The first was Jack, who joined our family through domestic adoption here in the U.S. Jack has Down syndrome and he was our first special needs adoption. As we moved to add daughters to our family of brothers, we turned to international adoption. Five of our children came to our home from Russia in two separate intercountry adoption forays. All four of our daughters were sisters before sibling adoption brought them back together in our home. Our time in Russian orphanages taught us about social orphans around the world and how important older child adoption is. We hope that time you spend on our family web site makes you smile, shed a few tears and then laugh out loud. We hope you find our pictures and stories to be inspiring and encouraging. We hope that by the time you leave, your faith in humanity will have been boosted and that you feel like you can go out and better your own life, as well as the lives of all those you touch.
Please note that under the “Blogs>>” tab there are several worthwhile categories by different members of our family.
In our blog articles, we won’t ignore the “natural fertilizer” that no one finds pleasant. I hope you laugh when you read about me falling in it. I know you will cry when you see it heaped on the innocent. But we will also witness flowers that bloom in its midst and we will remember that—in time—exquisite beauty can rise above filth, mountains burst forth from the abyss and mighty civilizations grow out of rubble.
You can also follow my writing for the Huffington Post.
This week's blog on Reactive Attachment Disorder is about RAD and stealing, especially when it seems to make no sense. Please read: http://johnmsimmons.com/rad-stealing-reactive-attachment-disorder/
Sometimes RAD stealing is a godsend. I heard you gasp, just now. I also saw you roll your eyes. Think about it, though.
If you have friends or family members like me, who believe, but who aren't quite as adept in faith as you, or Amy, you will like this blog article. Please get it to those whom it might help. And Jack says Ho, Ho, Ho! Merry Christmas! to all of you. http://johnmsimmons.com/faith-obstacles/
Because I'm a person who struggles with faith obstacles, but who also writes about miracles, I worry about those who might be injured by what I write.
So glad I found this page!!!!!!!
Recently, Emily was telling me about the farm at her orphanage. I thought it would be a good blog subject. It talks more about cleaning up after pigs than I anticipated, but I guess if I had to clean up after pigs, that would stand out in my mind too... Here's Emily's blog this week: http://johnmsimmons.com/cleaning-pigs/#
[Emily has written about her first father taking her to a community farm and teaching her how to milk cows when she was little. Recently, she was telling me that her orphanage had its own little farm and garden too. I was fascinated with the stories and recommended that she share it with you in her…
Beautiful family, Mr. Simmons!
Sometimes it seems more like "Prosecuting" than "Advocating." Here's a blog on RAD Advocating for kids with Reactive Attachment Disorder. http://johnmsimmons.com/rad-advocating-reactive-attachment-disorder/
We had no idea how different RAD advocating would be from the norm. Advocating for children with Reactive Attachment Disorder is like no other advocating.
My great-uncle told me he guessed I'd get what I had coming to me. I smiled because I could hear my grandpa saying the same words, though he was long-gone. Here's the blog; Challenges Within Effective Families. Please read: http://johnmsimmons.com/challenges-within-effective-families/
The challenges brought into our home trained our other children about challenges within effective families, how life was to be lived and how to succeed.
When Emily told me she was writing about Christmas in Russia for her blog, this picture I took of kids in Russia sledding on scrapped car parts immediately came to mind. Here's Emily's blog post this week; Christmas in Russia. Please read: http://johnmsimmons.com/christmas-russia/
[Keep in mind that Emily’s views come from an orphanage and are not always reflective of Russia, in general. Also, it will help you to understand more if you know that St. Nicolas (The Russian patron Saint of Christmas and …
Please take a moment to check out my page and Like it. I adopted two girls through foster care, one with RAD. I want to publish my story to support those going through challenges with a RAD kid. Thanks! https://www.facebook.com/pages/Born-in-My-Heart-A-Bittersweet-Adoption-Blessing/317680905081203
When I decided to be the birth coach for a stranger, little did I know it would result in two daughters…
Author Nealie Rose, fellow parent of a child with RAD and one of the people that follows and comments on my Facebook page and blog has just release her Kindle book about experiences with her daughter. I haven't read it yet but she's getting good reviews. Here's the link: http://goo.gl/7j8qRO
REVIEWS Bryan Sawyer, LIVE! with Kelly Top Teacher Award recipient: “Chasing Lilly is an eye-opening look into the world of mental illness from the prospective of a parent. Her harrowing tales make it easy to forget that Lilly is a real girl. As an educator, I would recommend this book to ...
From article written by Russian journalist and volunteer for Downside Up Julia Kolesnickenko "I cannot explain how painful it is to read the letters of these parents. When the pain becomes unbearable, I write another article...I write because I do not know what else to do. Because it's the only thing I can do. Because at least one child from this list finally got a family. Because to keep silent about it is even harder than to tell." http://parentsunitedforrussianorphans.blogspot.com/2014/12/this-article-was-written-in-russian-by.html
Have you ever been stuck in an argument about Reactive Attachment Disorder? Did you want to scream out the same thing I wanted to? Liar! Liar! Pants on fire! Here's a blog article on RAD manipulation. I think you'll be able to relate. http://johnmsimmons.com/rad-manipulation-reactive-attachment-disorder/
RAD manipulation often relies on a “divide and conquer” strategy and children who suffer from Reactive Attachment Disorder understand that all too well.
Let me guess... You have a child who suffers from Reactive Attachment Disorder and Thanksgiving was a disaster. You are thinking about canceling the rest of the holidays! I once wrote a four part blog about vacations and RAD. They apply just as much to the holidays. If your child with RAD struggles during the holidays, you need to read these. The links to articles two through four are found at the end of the first one. Good luck and I hope this helps! Here is the link to get you started. http://johnmsimmons.com/vacations-are-the-devil-when-you-have-children-with-reactive-attachment-disorder-part-1-of-4/
What is it about vacations and Reactive Attachment Disorder that are so incompatible? As it turns out, A lot!
The enigma of adoption: the good, the bad and why it's needed: Please read: http://www.motheringinthemiddle.com/enigma-adoption/#.VH93w-8tCUl
So… is adoption an institution of saintly parents rescuing abandoned children from orphanages and people who steal Christmas Oranges from orphans? Is it a multibillion dollar business that exploits young, inexperienced mothers-to-be and pressures them into giving up their babies with tales of how in…
Grandpa and I took Jack on a long drive with us to Vernal, Utah near Dinosaur National Park. Jack got some pictures for you on his photo blog. Make sure you open them to read the stories. You can even find out what happened to the brontosaurus if you click on the applicable link! http://johnmsimmons.com/through-jacks-eyes/
You have seen Jack through our eyes, the eyes of his wonderful friends, and you have grown to love him as we do. Jack has been, or is; a Prom King, high school Track Team member, grocery store Bagger, Santa’s …
#SiblingAdoption Adoption is best when it brings families back together.
Christmas is a riot with Jack in our family. Read about the holidays with Down syndrome: http://johnmsimmons.com/down-syndrome-holidays/
If your family has a member with a bonus chromosome, you know exactly what I’m talking about. Down syndrome holidays are the best.
Emily's Weekly Blog. http://johnmsimmons.com/bad-hit-us-sticks-heads/
[Once a year, Emily’s group from her Russian orphanage went camping. She shares about those trips in today’s blog] First time I went to the Russian camp and we have so much fun. I spent time with my friends and …
LAST DAY For FREE. This picture is of Celeste, Denney and Sarah shortly before Sarah's fateful visit with Santa Claus. Read about the faith of three little girls and a miracle in Nor Doth He Sleep. Free Kindle Download through evening of 11-30-14. http://goo.gl/oFdFeC
Nor Doth He Sleep tells the true story of three best friends from a Russian orphanage, who could never forget each other. Beginning with a shocking first visit to Santa Claus, where five-year-old Sarah asks him heartbreaking questions, the short story focuses on the faith of children, miracles, a...
#DownSyndrome = perpetual innocence.
We’ve been missing you. A lot! With changes in the way that Facebook does things, almost no one sees our posts if we don’t pay to advertise them. As much as we like to share about our family, it just wasn’t possible to pay to share that many posts. We think we have a solution, though. We’ll keep posting, but the majority will be on our blog. Then we’ll run an ad on one Facebook post each week that has a link that will take you to all the others. This is that link! Click on it to see our recent posts. If you haven’t registered, yet, you’ll need to create a unique password and enter your email. We need your email because we couldn’t bear to lose you again, no matter what Facebook does! Please help us get this message out! Now… click on the link and catch up! http://johnmsimmons.com/too-good-for-facebook/
Every week I save some things for subscribers of JohnMSimmons.com that are just too good for Facebook. If you can’t see them below, login below or click here to register for a free subscription and then receive access to all of …
If you liked Amy's Turkey Cheeseball, you'll love Holiday Hooters. The recipe for the cheeseball in the turkey is excellent but pretty mild. The Bacon and Jalapeno recipe she uses for these owls has just the right amount of zip. Share this on your Facebook page so you can find it when you want it. These owls will be the hit at your next holiday party! http://johnmsimmons.com/bacon-jalapeno-cheese-ball-fun-holiday-hooters/
“Owl” you like to make some Holiday Hooters with Amy’s Bacon and Jalapeño Cheese-Ball. I Guarantee your friends and family will swoop in and eat ‘em up! Who will get the last bite? Ingredients 16 oz cream cheese 2 oz …