At John M Simmons .com it’s all about home and family. Of course the foundation of ours is a successful marriage and most of that can be attributed to my wife, Amy. Parenting, in our home, involves nine children, in all, and we have just entered the mode for grandchildren with our first grandchild. After three biological sons, Amy and I turned to adoption. The first was Jack, who joined our family through domestic adoption here in the U.S. Jack has Down syndrome and he was our first special needs adoption. As we moved to add daughters to our family of brothers, we turned to international adoption. Five of our children came to our home from Russia in two separate intercountry adoption forays. All four of our daughters were sisters before sibling adoption brought them back together in our home. Our time in Russian orphanages taught us about social orphans around the world and how important older child adoption is. We hope that time you spend on our family web site makes you smile, shed a few tears and then laugh out loud. We hope you find our pictures and stories to be inspiring and encouraging. We hope that by the time you leave, your faith in humanity will have been boosted and that you feel like you can go out and better your own life, as well as the lives of all those you touch.
Please note that under the “Blogs>>” tab there are several worthwhile categories by different members of our family.
In our blog articles, we won’t ignore the “natural fertilizer” that no one finds pleasant. I hope you laugh when you read about me falling in it. I know you will cry when you see it heaped on the innocent. But we will also witness flowers that bloom in its midst and we will remember that—in time—exquisite beauty can rise above filth, mountains burst forth from the abyss and mighty civilizations grow out of rubble.
You can also follow my writing for the Huffington Post.
Make the dreams of an older child come true. #Adopt
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Reactive Attachment Disorder and Compromise. How about if we limit her to five homicides per month? Please read: http://johnmsimmons.com/rad-compromising-reactive-attachment-disorder/
RAD compromising means a new argument each day, beginning with the most liberal interpretation of an immoveable line that was agreed to the day before.
18 hours ago
It's everybody's responsibility to help children to have families.
Special Needs Adoption is a community thing! Please read: http://johnmsimmons.com/special-needs-adoption/
Special Needs adoption adds an element of inconvenience to families, but I have never seen an inconvenience that is so much fun.
Moscow It's Amazing. Please read Emily's blog post: http://johnmsimmons.com/moscow-amazing/
[Before we met Emily, she had only seen small, remote Russian villages. When we took her to our hotel in Vladivostok, a city of about 500,000, she was overwhelmed. She couldn’t believe what we say in Moscow. She told us that she had always thought that stories about Moscow were propaganda.] In Mosco…
When first families can't be saved, children need another chance for a family.
Sibling adoption whenever possible!
RAD Good Days: RAD good days can be as simple as a moment of holdings hands, instigated by a child with no ulterior motive. The Good Days are EXQUISITE! Please read: http://johnmsimmons.com/rad-good-days-reactive-attachment-disorder/
RAD good days can be as simple as a moment of holdings hands, instigated by a child with no ulterior motive.
None of us should ever forget where we came from.
A Lesson in Happiness from Jack! Down Syndrome Enthusiasm: Please read: http://johnmsimmons.com/down-syndrome-enthusiasm/
Maybe Down Syndrome enthusiasm didn’t come from Down syndrome, but from Jack. I mean everyone who has Down syndrome doesn’t display Down Syndrome enthusiasm
Hey Everyone... Recently I was interviewed by one of my favorite Dads and Dad Promoters, the founder of Father Nation, Jesse Foster. Jesse is a husband, dad to two, and he lives abroad, teaching English in Kazakhstan! Check out the interview and tell me what you think... http://www.fathernation.com/john-m-simmons/
John Simmons is a father of 9—3 biological and 6 adopted. He also has experience with special needs, such as Down Syndrome and talks about that some in this episode. From Utah, John appears frequen...
A friend of mine just got this email from someone in Russia who would like to locate an adopted family member. Please help me to "get it out there" so that this family can find their sister. As you have seen with my own daughters, it means so much to these siblings who search for lost members of their family. Thank you for helping me to pass this along.
Name: Elena Medvedeva
Message: Hello Katie,
my name is Elena.I am from Gardner,MA. I am sorry,I have a question,mayby I am in wrong way.. My friends who live in Russia now looking for family from USA who adopted their little sister in 2006 from Russia. They said me that woman's(who adopted little Sobolevskaya Karina, 03.21.2003) name is Katie and her hasband's name probably Jey.last name Bouft or something like that. They asked me to find this family in USA because missing her and want to say Hello...and I don't know how to help them.I just googled and found your name.I have also picture of Karina and her new family. Is it you or no?let me know please,so if no,I just will continue my search...Thank you,
Kids need families. AND best friends.
I'm tired of seeing parents punished for trying to help. Nothing about Reactive Attachment Disorder is fair. http://johnmsimmons.com/rad-unfairness-reactive-attachment-disorder/
RAD unfairness is worse than regular unfairness and I wanted someone to fix it. I wanted someone to make it fair.
Adoption IS a real family.
Put your childhood of abuse to good use...
My wife, Amy, grew up in traumatizing family settings until she all but hated the concept of family. One day, she realized that she COULD have the family of her dreams. She would just never be the child in that family. Please read: http://johnmsimmons.com/family-wishes-family-always-wanted/
Failures in my future wife’s historical family settings had taught her by default, the things that she would use to construct her own list of family wishes.
Today Emily's blog talks about wealth and poverty in the U.S. and in Russia. Please read: http://johnmsimmons.com/amarica-rich/
[Please keep in mind that these blogs are in Emily’s views and they are unvarnished. Her perspective is of a person who grew up with intellectual disabilities and psychological disorders, who knew nothing in her mother country but an abusive, neglectful home in a very small and poor Russian village…
Decide to give an orphan your home and don't stop until you have done it.
Home is where the heart is. Orphans need a place for their hearts.
Sometime Reactive Attachment Disorder devours time until it creates a famine. My Daughter Was A Well That Couldn't be Filled. Please read: http://johnmsimmons.com/rad-time-devouring-reactive-attachment-disorder/
RAD time devouring is one of the most straining effects of Reactive Attachment Disorder on otherwise healthy families.
john thank you so much for your hope for all foster & adopted children.
This week Emily's blog is about consequences. It's amazing to see how far she has come in this understanding. Hang in there parents with kids who have Reactive Attachment Disorder. Things get better! Please read: http://johnmsimmons.com/good-get-good-consequences/
At different time I have [bad] behaviors. I try to run away and hurt myself. But now it’s different. Now I keep rules and be happy. I know that sometimes I am mad and also I argue with people and my staff. I am going to be good forever but nobody [is] perfect. Soon I get job and I am so excited. And…
I sent you a message. I hope you find the time to respond. :) Thank you.
Any way you look at it, #Adoption makes a family.