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At John M Simmons .com it’s all about home and family. Of course the foundation of ours is a successful marriage and most of that can be attributed to my wife, Amy. Parenting, in our home, involves nine children, in all, and we have just entered the mode for grandchildren with our first grandchild. After three biological sons, Amy and I turned to adoption. The first was Jack, who joined our family through domestic adoption here in the U.S. Jack has Down syndrome and he was our first special needs adoption. As we moved to add daughters to our family of brothers, we turned to international adoption. Five of our children came to our home from Russia in two separate intercountry adoption forays. All four of our daughters were sisters before sibling adoption brought them back together in our home. Our time in Russian orphanages taught us about social orphans around the world and how important older child adoption is. We hope that time you spend on our family web site makes you smile, shed a few tears and then laugh out loud. We hope you find our pictures and stories to be inspiring and encouraging. We hope that by the time you leave, your faith in humanity will have been boosted and that you feel like you can go out and better your own life, as well as the lives of all those you touch.
Please note that under the “Blogs>>” tab there are several worthwhile categories by different members of our family.
In our blog articles, we won’t ignore the “natural fertilizer” that no one finds pleasant. I hope you laugh when you read about me falling in it. I know you will cry when you see it heaped on the innocent. But we will also witness flowers that bloom in its midst and we will remember that—in time—exquisite beauty can rise above filth, mountains burst forth from the abyss and mighty civilizations grow out of rubble.
You can also follow my writing for the Huffington Post.
Empty the orphanages!
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We are SO exhausted. Hours of major outrage, breaking things, banging on whatever she wants, screaming, spitting at us, saying every vicious thing she can, terrorizing us for hours. We've tried medicine, ongoing counseling, readjusted parenting for RAD. Our other 3 kids are also emotionally done too.
So....once again we are online searching for places to send her.
#SpecialNeeds ??? No. #SpecialGifts
A couple of weeks ago one of you wrote a comment asking if I had any experience with food hoarding. Yep. Who has children from hard places that hasn't experienced food hoarding? Here you go... RAD Food... Please read: http://johnmsimmons.com/rad-food-reactive-attachment-disorder/
RAD food in America meant that you would never go hungry! It also meant something I hadn’t anticipated.
#Adoption Does she have a chance?
Miles of adoption smiles. :-)
I thought you might find this article on IEPs helpful. Good luck with the schools this year. :-)
Creating an IEP – or Individualized Educational Program – can be an incredibly confusing and daunting experience. The “alphabet soup” of acronyms and legalese often increases the anxiety and uneasiness for families. There are often many professionals in the room, some just popping in and out...
#Adoption Give him a home to call his castle! :-)
Kids with RAD headed back to school? Is that good, or bad??? Yep. You're right. Please read: http://johnmsimmons.com/rad-school-reactive-attachment-disorder/
It’s good and it’s bad. It’s happy and sad. I love to hate RAD school. Or maybe I hate to love it.
Great movie on RAD, true life story on LMN. "Troubled Child."
Give a smile a home. :-)
#Adoption. Hold On!
More praises for Dr. Karyn Purvis and TCU. I really believe that these methods are currently the best in the field for helping any child who comes from a hard place.
Hope and Healing: Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI) and Felt Safety6 Questions for Carol LozierHope for The HolidaysQuestions to Ask When Choosing a Therapist **GIVEAWAY** "Devotions of Comfort and Hope for Adoptive & Foster Moms"
After last week's post on Reactive Attachment Disorder, I'm sure you'll be able to relate to this one, and particularly after a long summer... Please read RAD Exhaustion: http://johnmsimmons.com/rad-exhaustion-reactive-attachment-disorder/
All of us need to find ways to replenish our emotional and energy reserves at a faster rate than we deplete them to avoid the catastrophe of RAD exhaustion.
Are you going broke trying to help your child who has attachment disorders? Please read: http://johnmsimmons.com/rad-broke-reactive-attachment-disorder/
I could go RAD broke suing the state, but the law breaker had no threat or incentive to keep him from breaking the law.
Is the Kingdom Ball being hosted this year?
If you are watching closely, at the very time it is hardest to be in tune, you will catch a glimpse of sincerity within RAD, and your child will thank you. Please read: http://johnmsimmons.com/rad-safety-reactive-attachment-disorder/
In the RAD cycles of three-steps-forward—two-steps-back, soon after rock-bottom, something happens. I’m convinced the change is related to RAD safety.
#SOS !! Please help the little girl to beat cancer. Milana 2 years old only, she has liver cancer. The tumor is growing at an incredible rate and she urgently needs a transplant, without which she can't live. This is a very expensive surgery, and her parents don't have so much money. They are desperate and asking for help from caring people. Thank you!
Hello everyone! This sweet girl named Milana, 2 years old. She needs our help! Milana has liver cancer, the last stage
Love make the heavens glow.
I really feel like I'm on the edge of a breakdown. Kellie is 16, Kylie 10. Two older girls on their own. All adopted. Kellie with RAD, Kylie with PTSD I'm sure because my husband died almost 2 yrs ago. Kellie on meds I'm on antidepressants. Kellie was in residential for a year where she got no help. She has been in counseling since adopted at 4. I'm sick n tired of the lies, stealing, and fighting with Kylie every day. I feel completely alone and can't...
One is the loneliest number...
How often do you find yourself rebuilding a RAD house of cards? Please read: RAD Rebuilding... http://johnmsimmons.com/rad-rebuilding-reactive-attachment-disorder/
While I hoped that her going back to work meant RAD rebuilding, another step forward, she just figured she needed to turn up the charm.
Brothers will always have friends.
Loveable, (((huggable))) wanted and needed.